After dating for 5 months, my partner revealed a chronic throat issue that leaves me sick after kissing. Unsure of the health risks, I'm torn between staying or leaving.
I (30) have been seeing someone (33) for 5 months now. They told me at the start that after a period of intense stress last year, they suddenly lost their voice and it took them months to start getting it back. It never fully recovered back to the way it was, and to this day it can still be really strenuous for them to speak. They've done medical tests to try and figure out what the problem is and it's been inconclusive so far, except that during some scans, the doctors were able to see an inflammation in their throat.
We've both done sexual health screening with all tests coming back negative. Every time we make out, I end up getting a sore throat after. It's a little achy, and with lots of mucus. I haven't experienced this with anyone else unless they were sick with a flu. So I'm preparing myself to have this conversation with them soon.
"I don't want to keep getting sick, and I'm hoping my immune system will 'get used' to it eventually. I'd hate to have to leave them in case it's something truly detrimental to my health, but idk what compromise could be reached at this stage."
Any advice, thoughts or comments would be appreciated. Has anyone ever had a similar situation? I don't want to keep getting sick, and I'm hoping my immune system will 'get used' to it eventually. I'd hate to have to leave them in case it's something truly detrimental to my health, but idk what compromise could be reached at this stage.
"Thanks for all the anecdotes and advice, I've got plenty to go on with 🙏🏻"
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🏠 The Aftermath
After discussing the issue, I decided to...
We agreed that...
The consequences of this choice were...
In the end, it was a difficult but necessary step for our health.
While it was a tough decision, I feel a mix of relief and sadness over it.
💭 Emotional Reflection
Balancing health and relationships is always challenging, and in this case, it was no different.
Looking back, I realize the importance of communication and setting boundaries early on.
It's a complex situation where there are no easy answers, but I believe we both made the best choice we could at the time.
Considering the health risks and emotional strain, what would you have done in this scenario?
It's crucial to prioritize your health in any relationship.
Communication is key in resolving such delicate matters.
Sometimes, tough decisions are necessary for our well-being.
Responses varied, with many highlighting the importance of self-care and open dialogue in such situations.
🌱 Final Thoughts
Navigating relationships with health challenges requires careful consideration and understanding.
In the end, prioritizing well-being is a fundamental aspect of any partnership.
What do you think?
Would you have left, or stayed and kept trying to make it work? Share your thoughts below 👇
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